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Have you ever been close to someone who has let you down, cut you off or hurt you irreparably?

Are you there for others but when you need help no one seems to notice?

Hypnotherapy and diet change to stop cravings

We can feel alone and exhausted when strong emotions are following us around all day long. Many of us are living with negative emotions that are overwhelming and affecting our quality of life. It is normal to push these feelings down to try to suppress and ignore them hoping they will go away but the reality is that the more we do this the stronger they become. Imagine your emotions as a small child who wants your attention. You are working from home, you’re busy and you’re mind needs to be focused on work related things. The child knows that you are working and they want to be good and not disturb you but they are experiencing uncomfortable feelings in their body that they do not understand. It’s scary and they need you to help them figure this out and feel better. They wait as long as they can and they know they shouldn’t try to get your attention but they can’t help but call out to you from the other room. Your busy and the tone seems ok so you pretend you haven’t heard…. A few minutes later there is a knock on the door and you call “Just give me a minute”. Ten minutes later they sneak into the room and this time they are standing quietly by your shoulder after a minute they start tugging on your sleeve. You explain calmly that you are right in the middle of some really important work but you will be with them soon. They go away as you ask but these feelings are growing and becoming more and more intense. So they go out into the kitchen and in their frustration are banging about and making a lot of noise…. Then you hear things go quiet….. until….Suddenly there are raised voices and tears in the living room as they start a fight with a sibling. There is no option left for you, you must deal with this NOW! Our emotions are like this, we can try to contain, push them down or ignore them. This may work for a while, even years but the more we do this the stronger they develop and the closer they rise to the surface. Until something apparently small can cause floods of tears or an explosion of emotion, that makes us feel out of control, embarrassed or scared which further fuels the situation. If we refer back to the child metaphor, I wonder in real life would you ignore a child like that? What would have happened if we had taken a moment to stop, listen and support the child on the first, second or third request? In my experience the sooner we support a child the more likely they are to feel loved and supported and find it easier to navigate their emotions. Even though we are adults the same is true for us. Emotions that express themselves strongly in our body and hijack our behaviors can be scary. It can be helpful for us to understand that emotions are psycho-somatic meaning a thought can cause a strong emotional reaction in our body that is a subconscious response and not controlled by our conscious mind. Hypnotherapy and psycho-emotional techniques bridge the gap between the conscious and subconscious and help us to influence and change these behaviors. I have taught emotional coping skills in primary school and kids find this fun and really helpful for dealing with feelings that seem stuck in their stomach, throat, head or causing disruptive behavior. Ideally the younger we learn these skills the better, however it is never too late to free ourselves from overwhelming emotions. Even after decades it is possible to recover from trauma, anxiety, depression, panic attacks or overwhelming feelings like fear, grief or low self-esteem that are impacting on your health and quality of life.

I want you to imagine you are on a fly fishing holiday in Alaska. This is the holiday of your dreams. The sun is shining, the birds are singing. Behind you the mountains are capped with snow. Its beautiful. You’re wrapped up warm and the water, it’s teaming with fish. You bait your hook, the fly is pink and glittery, much larger than anything you would use at home. Casting your line out in front of you your prepared to wait… But this is Alaska…. within minutes you have hooked something. As you wind in the reel smiling broadly you notice…. its heavy… It struggles…. You’re patient… little by little you guild it in. It’s large, silver and shimmering a King Salmon on your first cast. WHAO… your beaming Its time for a selfie.. As you hold the fish in one hand and focus your phone camera with the other, you are instantly alert! What is that in the background? Within seconds your heart is pounding and muscles tense. Its BIG….. Its Brown and moving towards you…… SH**….RUN… A BEAR…. Reacting in a split second, you drop everything… your PRIZE fish, your PHONE…never mind about the ROD…. Sprinting up the beach, you dive into the canoe and paddle, paddle, paddle as fast as you can…. Out a safe distance from shore, you are shaking, gasping for breath, sweating. As you looking back at the beach your heart is pounding, legs and arms are weak. The bear is still there, ambling up the beach towards your gear and a FREE lunch. As you realise you are safe, your breath returns to normal, muscles relax, you are thinking clearly again and the panic has gone. This was an attack of panic an appropriate response to danger, when your sympathetic nervous system kicked into action kept you safe and saved your life! Unfortunately, with modern living everyday stress and anxiety levels can become chronic. Chronic levels force our body into a state of constant alertness and day to day tasks, pressure of deadlines at school and work, thoughts of the past or things that need done can be enough to trigger panic out of the blue. Then the fear, embarrassment and loss of control can feed into this cycle making it worse. Attacks happen more frequently, affecting mood, ability to think, appetite, sleep, energy and self-confidence. It can seem impossible to break this cycle naturally but it is possible to feel better and get back in control. We can all feel overwhelmed from time to time. If you experience a compelling urge to get away when you are finding it difficult to cope this can be an early sign of panic. Going for a walk, breathing and practicing mindfulness can all be helpful. However, if you are experiencing panic attacks and the basics aren’t helping - seek help. 

Hypnosis can improve your health

Restore your health

Women’s health is complex, it is never one clear symptom but rather a medley of mental, physical and emotional symptoms. For example a lady who came to me had been experiencing severe stress, crippling anxiety, low confidence, exhaustion, cravings and weight gain. Post trauma stress made her feel trapped and she shied away from aeroplanes, car journeys and even lifts. Working and caring for a sick child and juggling her own health issues she was finding it difficult to cope. Her mood would swing from high to low, waking at night, sweating profusely, dizzy at times with unbearable tension headaches. Her social anxiety was extreme, she was paranoid, avoiding close friends and afraid it was all in her head. Overthinking everything she was tense all over, her shoulders and neck were so stiff, everything hurt and massage was not helping. When she reached out to me she was terrified she’d collapse in public she had been prescribed xanax by her doctor as well as trying counsellors, acupuncture, homeopathy, reiki and many health supplements. What she didn’t realise was that her physical pain was psychosomatic meaning a physical illness or other condition caused or aggravated by a mental factor such as internal conflict or stress. Within the first session of working together all the pain and tension in her body was gone and she was feeling calm, confident and able to breath freely again. After a short course of therapy the headaches and other symptoms had disappeared and her energy levels increased. Soon she was feeling back to her old bubbly self, able to enjoy driving and the freedom of a family holiday abroad. She was also able to support a friend with hospital appointment’s as she could once again drive her car and travel in lifts freely and comfortably. With further support she reduced from a size 14 to size 10. Her clothes felt more comfortable and she was delighted to get back into her favourite jeans without calories counting or cravings. Of course this is only one persons story but perhaps it can give you an idea of what is possible when a persons health is viewed holistically. As a clinical and medical hypnotherapist, acupuncturist and chinese herbalist, I specialise in psycho-trauma (mind-trauma) and psycho-somatic (mind-body) conditions these could be A. Physical symptoms, hormone imbalance and pain caused by your thoughts, stress or trauma. B. Emotional and mental symptoms that stem from physical pain or digestive issues C. Conditions like anxiety and depression that could stem from both A or B above. Life is challenging and it is normal to suppress unhelpful feelings and thoughts but unfortunately as we try to contain and control them they can build and express physically in various ways affecting our health from heart palpitations to irritable bowel disease, skin conditions or headaches. So if you have been suffering from unusual symptoms for a while or worried that it is all in your head then it is worth getting in touch as I might be able to help you. Amanda Roe provides natural solutions for your mental, emotional and physical health. To book a FREE 15min Consultation with Amanda click here.